Blessed By Rejection

The feeling of being rejected often comes when we seek man's approval. But, man's rejection becomes God's confirmation when the only approval we're seeking is His. #Faith #Rejected #Chrisianity #Devotions

No one likes to be rejected.

But it happened to me this week…twice!

The first was from an agent and the other from a publisher.

And… I can’t even begin to explain how excited I was to get these.


I have written for the past five years out of obedience. I attended the She Speaks conference this July out of obedience. Both are things that God has been very clear on. Both are also things that have brought much fear and a serious battle with doubt. I’ve had many conversations with God asking Him everything from why to how, including throwing my hands up in the air at Him over not wanting this assignment if it was all about me.

As I was on a prayer walk the other morning, I specifically asked that I wouldn’t have to chase the publishers and agents down that I met with at She Speaks. I was clear with God that I wanted Him to open the doors if this was the direction that I was supposed to go.

An hour and a half later, I received an email from one of the publishers I had met with.

It was nothing short of a blessing because…

1. God directly answered my prayer. How can one not be excited to hear directly from the God of the universe without getting excited no matter what the answer?

2. I asked for more specific feedback from the publisher and received it.

The feeling of being rejected often comes when we seek man's approval. But, man's rejection becomes God's confirmation when the only approval we're seeking is His. #Faith #Rejected #Chrisianity #Devotions

3. My rejection was God’s confirmation that I’m right where I’m supposed to be with Him. It didn’t crush me. In fact, I wasn’t even the least bit sad.  God and I have been on this journey together. It’s not about me; it’s about Him. This was God’s way of confirming that my heart is truly in the right place.

4. It was a symbol of BOLD faith. This girl got on a plane, flew across the country, and sat across the table from publishers and agents. I met women I didn’t know, shook hands and pitched a book to people I didn’t know, and I shared my story for His glory with anyone who would listen. This rejection represents the fact that I did not allow fear to keep me from doing what God had clearly asked me to. This rejection is indicative of the kind of faith that “walks on water” and doesn’t just sing about wanting to.   (Click to Tweet)

The feeling of being rejected often comes when we seek man's approval. But, man's rejection becomes God's confirmation when the only approval we're seeking is His. #Faith #Rejected #Chrisianity #DevotionsIn the past, rejection or the feeling of being rejected came from seeking the approval of others. When I didn’t get it, I was more than devastated.

But…Man’s rejection becomes God’s confirmation when the only approval we’re seeking is His. (Click to Tweet)

Maybe one day I’ll be a “published” author or maybe not. I still have two people to hear back from and many conversations with God to be had before I’ll know what He’s up to.

But for now…

All that matters… is that today… I live to make Him famous by continuing to get out of the boat.

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  • Renee Ratcliffe

    Thank you, Shelley, for the hope expressed through these words!! Seems like rejection is a theme woven through my story, but you remind me that Jesus’ approval is the anchor of my soul. Congratulations for stepping out of the boat! Yes, you are making Him famous, and I am grateful for like-hearted sisters like you. So nice to meet you through Michelle’s blog hop!

    • Shelly Tiffin

      Thank you so much Renee for your kind words. I hope you are encouraged to keep at it.

  • Trudy Den Hoed

    This really touches a deep part in my heart, Shelley. I have such a hard time with rejection from publishers. So much that I would give up submitting sometimes for years. Approval addiction is so hard to get rid of, but I’m learning by tiny steps to place my identity in Christ’s approval and acceptance. Thank you, Shelley.

    • Shelly Tiffin

      I love the term “approval addiction”! I think many more suffer from it than are willing to admit. I’m not saying I’m over it by any means, in fact that’s probably why this incident was so remarkably different for me. It’s one of the first times I’ve experienced rejection this way I’m sorry to say.

  • Mark Allman

    Being rejected is better than being ignored! :) Sometimes rejection can serve as redirection or a time to press on. I appreciate your attitude towards it all. That is great.

    • Shelly Tiffin

      Thanks Mark. I like the thought of re-direction as well.

  • Steven Tessler

    I always remember that Andy Andrews book “The Travelers Gift” was rejected 51 times!!! Look at him now.

    I’ve been rejected many times and now I see it as a motivator!!

    Thanks for what you do!!

    • Shelly Tiffin

      Thanks Steven, that’s a great reminder.

  • David Mike

    I had someone ask me to stop posting my blog on a FB group. I took it as a way to deal with what might come when my book is released. It didn’t feel good, but I realize not everyone is going to like me or my writing.

    • Shelly Tiffin

      So, true. It feels like a milestone in moving forward somehow. For me the difference really comes in the shift for doing it for myself verses doing it all for the glory of God.

  • Sabrena Klausman

    I agree completely. I got so many rejections for so long! It does teach us to find our identity in Christ and not man’s approval. Never give up!

    • Shelly Tiffin

      Thanks for the encouragement Sabrena!